Comments on: Answer This

By: Bill

Bill — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:16:43 +0000

More than likely there is some type of conflict going on because of perceived wrongdoing. I would ask them if I had offended them in some way. Assuming that they perceive that I have indeed offended them, I would ask for their forgiveness for at the very least making them feel that way. Then followup with asking if they’d go to grab a snack/lunch/dinner with me and try to further restore the relationship. If they refuse at any of these points, that is their choice. But I believe in such a case as this I will have done everything reasonable and perhaps even possible to heal and would not, as Jesus said, let the dust remain on my shoes.

By: Terry

Terry — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 11:37:12 +0000

“…Kill them with kindness….”

sometimes no.

there was a situation in my life where the best thing was to leave the person who had ‘dishonored’ me alone.

that was the healthiest thing to do.

i have forgiven them and pray sometimes for them, but that doesn’t i should have interaction with her.

i hope this doesn’t come across bad.

By: alicia

alicia — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 06:35:28 +0000

I am right in the middle of this and my first attempt at kindness was thrown right back in my face – so I will just keep trying… Kill them with kindness right?

By: Terry

Terry — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 02:28:38 +0000

invite them over for pizza and enjoy a movie together

By: Cristin

Cristin — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 02:21:27 +0000

forgive them, love them, pray that God would bless them and give them favor.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 21:53:02 +0000

I have been thinking about this question for the past day…At first I couldn’t really think of someone who (at least recently) “dishonored” me. But there was one situation that came to mind after a while, and it was pretty recent…

I still see that person now and then, so my best answer is this: yes, to pray for him, but also to genuinely wish the best for him in life, to keep my opinions to myself and not to speak poorly of him, even though it would be pretty easy to do with some of the friends that were involved in the situation. And if any of my friends says something negative about him, to in turn say something positive, since we all could be called out for stuff like that.

Yep. Thanks for making me think of this, Los! Great question.

By: FireMom

FireMom — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 18:15:03 +0000

Pray for them.

That’s all I can do at times.

By: Jesse

Jesse — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 13:27:47 +0000

Los, you’re the man dude, you continue to amaze and challenge us all. All that was said here is right on, however I would say the only other thing you could do….is this! If someone is disprespecting you, don’t act right then. If you act right then, two things could happen. One, you’ll fly off the handle, and that ain’t good. Or two, you’ll try to be nice through your anger and then you won’t be real and genuine about it. People can tell when you’re faking it, they can see the scowel behind your smile. Take a day to pray about it, sleep on it. Don’t let your anger determine the situation. When you talk it out with someone, or journal it, it will help you process things better.

By: mandy

mandy — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 13:24:38 +0000

do to them what you WISH they had done to you…. treat them as you wanted them to treat you.

By: Aaron

Aaron — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 12:11:17 +0000

By not blogging about it. (You know how hard that can be!)