Men Create More Housework for Women
From LiveScience.com
Having a husband creates an extra seven hours of housework each week for women, according to a new study. For men, tying the knot saves an hour of weekly chores.
I don’t believe it.
He points out individual differences among households exist. But in general, marriage means more housework for women and less for men. “And the situation gets worse for women when they have children,” Stafford said.
No way
Women and men…
Chime in…
Who does the majority of the work in your house and are we as men SLACKING?
Los
RAIN IT DOWN
YOU better believe it.
in my house it is 50/50 just about. i don’t know who is doing their studies. for the average home…that is probably right…but 7 hours, that is a lot.
I can see this is a generalized way that in a lot of homes the women do the most housework. However, in mine I think it is pretty even, we each have the housework that we typically do, but even then sometimes we are doing each others.
This post reminds me I need to go out of my way to serve my wife.
My wife is actually in Hawaii right now. The kitchen is a fairly clean. I got a load of laundry done and my kids pick up the mess they create.
I think we’re doing pretty good while she’s gone.
I live in a house with 3 other girls…so I suppose we’re all in it together. =)
Growing up, my parents split the chores evenly between themselves, and when my brothers and I were old enough, we had our weekly duties as well. Kids just tend to make much huger messes…so if a guy isn’t mature and doesn’t clean up after himself, then I can see how it would add at least 7 hours to a wife that does all the housework. I’m not a big fan of gender roles when it comes to housework though. I think it’s attractive if a guy can cook and isn’t afraid to do the dishes or scrub the toilet.
my wife does more but i think i do a fair share (she may think differently though)
My husband, Jimmy, decided to take over all dish washing duties in our house. I have not washed a dish in months.
And this weekend he’s watching all three of our kids (5, 3, 1) and sent me to a bed and breakfast for a personal retreat.
There is a reason I have a series on my blog entitled “Husband University: Professor Jimmy Is In…”
He pretty much rocks.
I would have to say that I do more of the housework and caring for the kids BUT that does not mean that my husband is slacking. He works 12 hour days most of the time and I am a SAHM, so in my book it is fair that I do more at home. Since we had our second, he is much more involved in both housework and child care. He is such a blessing to all of us!!
My hubby does ALL outdoor things. Changes oil, mows the lawn etc. I do ALL indoor things. It’s worked out for the most part. Sometimes I get upset, but I’m quick to remind myself that he works 40+ hours per week outside the house.
I do most of the work inside and outside our house. I’m a pastor, and my wife works full-time outside the home. I have a much more flexible and relaxed schedule than she does, so I do most of it.
The housework is mainly my responsibility – I am picky about laundry so I do it all rather than be vile to someone helping me. My DH fixes or builds everything for us and has done the lion’s share of income, bookkeeping etc. for us – so it is a more than fair trade in my view. We are self employed so work for really tough bosses – but housework is my work.
without being married i still believe it.
I do alot of cooking, cleaning, washing, folding, etc. We try to split and do so effectively — although my wife does it faster and better. The kids are conspiring against us however. It would work even better if we set down clear expectations for ourselves and had our own “jobs.” We lose time guessing what the other is or has done. Does that make sense. Communication…I think we probably need some of that.
Seminary…we need less of that.
I must confess… If not for my hubby, we’d live in a pig sty most of the time.
My wife and I try and balance household tasks. We’re both busy (me working, her in seminary), but we do a pretty good job of keeping things in balance.
The fact that this stat exists disgusts me. It’s blurbs like this that piss me off and push me forward to be a different kind of husband; one that sees women (and my wife) as completely equal.
i am impressed that most of these responses are pro husbands. that makes me feel better. but in my house if i didnt clean our place would look like a frat house. and now with kids it is even worse
My husband doesn’t do much housework period. He does a few things… but I do 85% or more of it. Bills, mine. Errands, mine. All cleaning except basement. Laundry.
This week… he decided to make bread (homemade) and everything is still everywhere in the kitchen. That was tuesday. He refuses to load the dishwasher or learn how to.
Plus, we have 4 dogs. I wanted one. So I have to clean up after them to.
When I was single, I could do an hour or two a week of cleaning and keep my entire place clean. Now I do 4-5 hours a day. Not kidding. So I make him work more hours so I don’t have to work full time. His choice.
oh and been married 11 years los. It’s always been this way, or my house would look like a bachelor pad. He has his own bedroom too now because he refuses to clean up after himself. And it is gross. Literally.
If this is true, then we’re talking about crappy husbands. Go serve your wife and pick up a broom, or dish towel and get busy, you slackers!
Los, I really don’t appreciate you sharing this. But for once I am glad that my precious (non blogging and blog reading) wife doesn’t read what I do. Yet I concur with the findings. I don’t care for chores and house work. I read Gary Lamb say he joined in on it today though….
With six kids, it’s hard to keep the house clean even under the best circumstances. My dh does help a LOT with the kids, not so much with the house.
Since a lot of my work is at night (music practice, meetings, etc), he is responsible for preparing a lot of the meals. But I really would like to have more help in keeping things picked up around here.
YEa. I could do more. It seems like lots of us actually have tasks.
I do.
My wife is a SAHM but she has 3 kids 5 and under.
So I put away all laundry (which I hate) and do the trash out of eavery room in the house and clean up after dinner.
It does not seem like a lot but when I do not nail those tasks, she feels it
I agree.
I am not sure of the exact time (7 hours??) But this is totally true in our household. Not that I’m not messy too, but it was just natural for me to do the laundry, etc. when we got married. Otherwise, I’d have all pink shirts that were 2 sizes too small.
My hubbie helps in a LOT of big stuff, but day to day, I think this is true.
But he still rocks.
I was also trying to be nice because hubbie reads your blog.
I have to get up early every day just to pick up after my husband from the night before. It is sad. His clothes are right next to the clothes hamper. His shoes almost make it to the rack. His coke cans are everywhere.
I blame the mothers.
Hmmmm…now with a name like Domestic Goddess, who do you think does all the work around here?
Let’s see? With just a husband I cleaned for a few minutes a day and two hours on the weekend, all three floors.
With one kid and a husband it took me an hour a day, at least. THen it took all day Saturday to get the house cleaned, all three floors.
With a second child and a husband and a dog? I never get finished. Never. Ever. I have a list of daily chores (several hours to do, from dishes to picking up each room to laundry) and clean for most of the day Saturday. Does he get out of it? Yes. But I’m a SAHM and he works to support us. Plus, he gets to do the fun stuff, like clean up dog poo, mow lawn, take care of cars and bathe and put kids to bed. Me? I’m off duty from after dinner until the next morning when they wake up. So it ain’t so bad
I saw this report! Actually, hubby sent it to me because it’s SO NOT TRUE at our house! I was going to blog about it myself (still might).
Because I am so sorely lacking in multi-tasking abilities, and because he was raised to do so – my husband does all the laundry.
He also pays someone to clean the house weekly, mostly because it’s important to him – and not to me.
But I do love it. And I am grateful. Not taking ANYTHING for granted.
If it were any other way, I think our marriage would suffer.
my wife fixed me heart-shaped pancakes today.
She’s awesome!
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my husband is the freaking bomb. in fact, he’s vacuuming right now while i’m reading blogs.
he also cleans the hardwoods, puts away laundry, unloads the dishwasher… cuts the grass and takes out the trash, helps put kids to bed, kills any spider that tries to invade our house… and i’m really thankful for him!
The laundry alone…
I have an awesome husband and he is a great helper! We work together as a team and if it weren’t for him, I’d be nutty!
My ex would leave his dirty dishes all over the house. It was like going on a (gross) Easter egg hunt every time I did the dishes. He also never once picked up his own dirty socks, underwear, or anything else. I blame his never-cut-the-apronstrings mother who never let her little boy grow up. *rolling eyes* Thank God I’ve found a real man now who actually takes responsibility and pride in *our* house as opposed to treating me like a maid who works in the hotel he happens to be visiting.
You go, Shelly. And thank you to all of the men out there that are servants. It gives me hope in this dark, messy world.
Guess the principle of polygamy is good for something, huh?!
I wouldn’t mind the extra set of hands for the work my husband and 3 boys create!
Of course the woman does more usually because the guy is at work.. But I agree, having a husband adds more to our workload.. Especially when the husband begins to get really spoiled after a while of being married and suddenly forgets how to make his lunch, do laundry – basically survive on his own without his wife.
But I have to say it’s the biggest turn on to see your husband cleaning and doing chores. Oh yeah.
I have to admit, my husband cleans more then I do. But I take care of him more then he does me. Our kitchen would be a disaster if it wasn’t for him. I like to cook just not clean up.
alicia, not all of us stay home and the guy is at work. I work 20-30 hours a week in a real job, plus I help run a ministry, plus I work for a non profit about 20 hours a week, and take care of him, etc.
he works 40-50 hours a week. That’s it. Maybe an hour here or there to help… and with spring coming… I’m looking for a neighbor kid to do the mowing, and trimming because I don’t have time.
Those of you who have hubbies that pitch in… you are SO blessed.
Me, me, me, me, and me.
But I love him and try not to scowl too much. If it wasn’t for his job we wouldn’t have the house, but if it wasn’t for him I wouldn’t have the mess. I think it’s moot.
I am married to a mexican man AND we have six kids…what do you think that means for me? I so committing the sin of envy right now, reading about all these husbands who take over most of the household chores. And you, Los, PUTTING AWAY LAUNDRY. Pray for me!;)
Ha! We don’t have kids yet but ever since my husband started working for our church he does so much more house work. He’s home alot more now, and I’m LOVING the new and improved clean house. No complaints here!
I do, and yes men do make more work. Like…does your work shirt really hang on the banister along with your belt on the stairs and at the top of the stairs I don’t think your pants go there either! Ouch, and then there were your shoes! I do say he does do ALL of he vacuuming!
Don’t even get me started…..
In our house, I do the majority of the house work. My husband does help out with everything. As far as yard work. . I do that. I LOVE IT!
Help, my husband is lazy!
I really resent my husband for not really having a full time job and I have to work 40 hours a week. I would rather just stay at home and take care of the home. We are trying to work on a family but nothing yet.
We moved into his mother’s old house in February of this year which I was concerned about because the home needed lots of repairs and knew that this would be a problem because my husband always starts projects but never finishes them. My husband talks a good game but nothing ever comes of him talking about doing things.
He started a video productions company and barrowed the money from his mom but that has gone no where at this point. Surpised, not me because he has great ideas but just does not know how to make those dreams come to life.
I work 40 hours a week on the night shift and still can’t get my husband to do the chours around the house. I sleep during the day. I have an anxiety disorder which is a problem that I am trying to work on. I feel like I have to do it all or things will never get done and which stresses me out when I have to do the things that my husband has not done or will not do around the house.
He only works about 10 to 15 hours a week and takes one class twice a week at the local community college. We have no children and one dog. At times feel that he doesn’t care about all the hard work I do to pay the bills.
I have to beg him to do the laundry and then he has the nerve to ask why I don’t wear the same clothes for several days in a row. He won’t even hang the clothes up in my closet where they go. My husband’s idea of laundry is buying new clothes. His response is why don’t you do your own laundry and I will do mine. He just doesn’t get that 40 hours of work is all I can take with out having problems with my aniexty so his idea is not going to help just makes me have to do more work. The dishes sit there for several weeks before he decides to do them.
We only have a shower and no bath tub because my husband started working on remodeling the second bathroom and here it is about six months later and the bathroom is still not finished. Suprised, not me because I knew this would happen before we moved into the home but to make my husband happy I went along with moving into this home. I wanted a home that was not as much work but this is what we could afford at the time.
I really did like it when my husband had a job and I could stay home but he did not like his job at the time and neither did I. He was in the military at the time and I do not want him to go back in. I know that will be the first thing he says when he reads this that he could just go back into the military ( but then he will just be shipped off to Afganistan and that is not what I want either).
I am changing my work schedule to days but that will not start until November 9th. I feel that the home is better run by me than my husband but I cannot change that at this time.
I wish that my husband would stop being so lazy and get a real job so I can quit mine and take care of the home ( like the laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, and start a family).
Any suggestions would be helpful.