Sayin’ Sorry
When I left Sandals Church to go to Buckhead Church I left with a few relationships in jeopardy.
Yesterday I intentionally searched one of those out to try and reconcile it.
And I did.
I looked him square in the eye and told them I am sorry for what went down in our relationship.
I told him I loved him and asked him to forgive me.
He did and I am a better man for it.
Admitting you are at fault in something is a hard thing to do.
Who do you need to seek out forgiveness from this week?
Los
Good post man.
Great post, interesting that the topic for our message this week is about what you just did… that sounds easier on paper (or text) than it actually is, thanks for posting about it.
That takes guts. Good on ya.
Will we be having any chaos on the blog today?
I wrote a bit about this kind of theme here:
http://takeyourvitaminz.blogspot.com/2008/06/blog-post.html
Let me know what you think. Forgiveness is so powerful. Matt 18.
Yeah, I need to find my brother and apologize and tell him I’m sorry he wasn’t born as good looking as me.
Seriously though, we all need to be quicker to ask forgiveness. Even if we don’t think we were completely to blame.
Forgiveness is huge. Humility in relationships is often the key to winning someone to Jesus or winning them back to Jesus. We have to, I mean deeply have to, breathe and breed an atmosphere of reconciliation. Jesus commanded it:
2 Corinthians 5:18 (nasb) — Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation,
that can be tough. I’m happy that happened for you and your friend.
“Unforgiveness is like drinking poison with the hopes that the other person will die.”
thats beautiful…great post los…..mike.
“there’s nothing harder or more urgent than forgiveness”
I did the same think this week and I haven’t heard back from the person I apologized to. I’m praying that they can forgive me and we can reconcile our relationship. Pray for me…
Way to go Los!
my dad
C,
As usual, another great post. Just said sorry this weekend. Repentance is good for the soul!
I am also stopping by to tell you about a cool story I just posted. Thought you might enjoy. It’s a warm fuzzy piece.
Our friends who just returned from China with #2 have been featured on CNN. If you link here you can watch it:
http://sharingnotes.blogspot.com/2008/06/some-of-you-have-been-following-our.html
Blessings,
R
http://www.sharingnotes.blogspot.com
There’s someone that comes to mind, but it’s a really sticky situation. I’m not even sure how to approach it, since I’m not sure I even did anything wrong. All I know is that it’s not as it should be.
Sometimes, hurt is just hurt. Offense is offense regardless of who really warranted it. And asking someone’s forgiveness knowing that they may not respond at all is an even harder pill to swallow.
Thank you for the challenge, Los.
Rachel. I wasn’t sure either.
I just knew they were hurt.
Wow, thank you again. I went for it. And even though I have no idea what will (or will not) happen from now on…my heart is moved. In a good way. God did something powerful right there. Coming here and reading your post (and response) was what I needed to push me to take that step.
I love how He works these things out.
Your timing is funny – I just reconnected two days ago on facebook with an old flame that never really got off the ground and ended awkwardly about 10 years ago. I was nervous that he’d show up there – sharing all the same friends and everything. I sweated a lot when I saw his picture. Literally. But I messaged him, we got the awkwardness out of the way, and, go figure, HE apologized to me! And I thought I had been the one to blow it! I got a peaceful, easy feelin’…
Los
You’re the inspiration… (chicago)
Good job los.
I did this recently with a family member…
here:
http://denverintranslation.com/?p=437
I have done this many times in the past. It is hard and humbling, but it is well worth the effort because it restores a relationship and is pleasing to our God. Thanks to the Holy Spirit for convicting me when there is a relationship in my life that is on the rocks.
Sort of related…
I forgave my ex-husband for the years of abuse he put me through (emotional & verbal, not physical). I did it in my heart. It was between me and God. My X will never know because he just won’t because I will never seek him out. I’m not sure if he’d ever ask for it. But I did it anyway and Jesus set me free. I no longer feel hatred, or anything really, towards that man now. And occassionally I even pray for him.
Forgiveness = Freedom
Just went through that about 6 months ago…only my situation I was not forgiven. It is tough enough to lay your heart our there and expose your humility, then have it ripped to shreds. It took me some time to recover from that, but I realized that I too was a better man for at least trying to make it happen.
I think the thing we have to remember though is that we’re called to be obedient. If we try to make amends and the other person doesn’t want to then we have done what we can do and it’s in God’s hands. I think sometimes people don’t forgive us not because we are really a jerk but because the pride in their life won’t allow them to. I think it runs on a deeper level as a heart issue and not always a personal issue with you.
But does it still hurt if someone rejects our apology? Yeah. Rejection is real and raw and it just flat out sucks.
I had to do that Sunday with someone I’d hurt. He was amazing. I didn’t deserve it. Taught me a lot about mercy.
I’m glad you were able to smooth things over. I know it made a difference…
You guys are amazing.
Keep it up.
Los
Ford Prefect managed to change it a little before getting stuck on Earth. ,