Dude, I’m Alone Tonight…
Here is an iChat that went down while at Mellow Mushroom this evening…
Los – hey my friend
BFF – what’s going on today
Los – So I’m a bachelor tonight and am at a resturant and wanted you to know since I have male tendencies and could do stupid things when away from wife and friends.
Los – Just keeping myself in check
BFF – good call
BFF – I will text you tomorrow. And if you do something stupid…I will text your wife
does that work….or does that make you want to lie to me if you were actually to do something
Los – hmmmmmmm
Los – I think I would rather live with the fact that I disappointed you and her then tell her myself. Having to tell her would suck.
Los – So no. That does nothing
Los – And yes. I would want to lie.
BFF – ok, then just tell me and I won’t tell your wife. You will. That’s better
Los – Cool. And telling you b4 I am alone for the night makes me feel comfortable you will kick my ***.
BFF – Bend over.
I’m an jacked up man and an filthy messed up sinner made beautiful in Christ.
But I’m no fool.
RAIN IT DOWN
Inspirational.
You didn't type stars (***).
I gave a girl I work with a ride to pick up her car and called my wife to ask permission and so she knew… I have actually had her on speaker phone during rides like those before.
It pays to be honest with yourself and play it safe.
Oh that we all as men have someone like that in our lives.
Lord knows we all need one.
I remember the time I had to tell my husband that I had become emotionally attached to another man. WOW, freaky hard but he took it well. He prayed with me and we got through it. I had friends that would ask me how that situation was and kept me accountable, still do, and I love how the body of Christ works that way WHEN we walk in honesty and grace toward each other. It's when we feel we have to be fake that it all goes to crap. The enemy of our souls want nothing more then to get us thinking we are not free and there is not grace. He convinces us that secrets work but really they destroy and he is happy. I pray I always make him unhappy.
Grace out!
Carole, Thanks for sharing this. I think we easily fall into a trap by thinking that other people – especially those of the opposite gender – are immune from this sort of thinking. Transparency and honesty on this subject I think is critical to preventing problems.
Dude, thanks for leading by example. If more men did what you did, a whole lot more of us would be better off!
This is my favorite post of yours, good stuff. Thanks for being so honest.
True words. Good to see 'em.
Its great to have friends like that. – thank God for his grace.
The second to last line is the best accountability there is! A little *** kick always does some good
some things the wives are not meant to handle.
Your the man
wow that's pretty awesome that you're so open. and you have a good BFF too.
Yea. Being real is the only way to get it done.
Thanks for being real about this, Los.
Oh, this made me laugh.
your honesty makes me smile…and then I prayed for you
Nice.
I'm all about accountability (because it really works for me), but it's tough to find. It seems like no one wants to be in any one else's business and ask hard questions and kick ass. I'm glad you've got a friend like this.
Being someone who has had to confess his stupidity to my wife, I see so much value in the leadership you just displayed in this chat. My wife keeps going away for her training and I've been alone and need to get my buds to make sure I stay in check.
Thanks so much for being a strong and righteous seeking leader!
good call on the accountability convo….it's all fun and games until you come home from work with all your ish in the yard…on fire.
Wait…I say that as if that's happened to me before and it hasn't. I love my wife. And I know her enough to know that she would do the above mentioned.
Thanks for that. The night before I did something horribly stupid and this really helps show me that we as Christian can never be perfect but with God we can try our best.
Peace dude,
Bryan
Always good to have friends who will kick your ars when you mess up.
It just sucks being human and messing up a lot. I'm still trying to figure out how to counter act my human man kind tendencies.
If you figure it out…let me in on the secret.
But anyhow, right on man!
Accountability, honesty and of course the ability to 'run away'… Those are the only ways you'll survive as a Christian dude.
good on ya'.
This is where my past would eat me alive. When Heather reads it, she probably laughs…On my blog, if my wife were to read that, I'd be getting attacked from the back.
los,
this encourages me. keep your head up big fella.
This is very cool…. thanks for sharing.
While I totally admire your honesty I'm a bit confused of the problem. One evening away from your wife and temptation is too much to bare?
Please don't take this as me hacking on you, I don't mean to sound that way. I truly admire your honesty with yourself, your friend, and your wife. That is some true accountability you have there and that is awesome. My confusion is taking over though and I can't think of why you need accountability while out at a restaurant. What male tendencies are going to take over?
No problem asking.
I am one who has struggled before.
So I am always on the offensive with this.
Lest you fall.
Los
Well kudos to you for being one step ahead. That says something about the man and the husband that you are striving to be. That's awesome.
Valerie . . . no offense with this is meant . . . but if you don't "get it" then it really probably most likely cannot be explained. I fully understood what he meant immediately. I'm there too.
I can tell by the number of comments that other people understood and were right there with him. I understand accountability and I understand our human nature to sin. I suppose that's all I really need to know in this instance.
los, thank you.
and one again my friend, THIS is why we love you. those of us who know you personally and those who don't…. you are YOU and that's what we love. your are the poster-guy for authenticy. do you still sing that song at your new church?
Los, you are truly amazing. I admire your honestly and knowing that your wife will probably read this and still posting this means you have a strong backbone. I wish I had friends to keep me straight.
DEDALY GENESIS, FEAR PARALYZE MY ACTIONS
USELESS SERPENTS LIGHT UP THE FURNACE
I TAKE STEPS WHERE EVIL THOUGHTS FLOURISH
AND BEAR WITNESS TO DARK FORCES BENDING UP MY EDIFICE
I FOLLOW ANGELS TO THE BLACK ABYSS
AND THE CONSEQUENCES ARE DISASTROUS
‘I WILL ASCEND TO THE HEAVENS
AND ESTABLISH MY THRONE AT THE UTMOST HEIGHTS OF THE MOUNTAINS
AND MAKE MYSELF LIKE THE MOST HIGH’ (Isaiah 14:13,14)
A LIE RECORDED IN ISAIAH FOURTEEN, THAT I AMPLIFY
MY MAN CAME AND PROPHECIED
BUT MY HEART WAS SOLIDIFIED
I SIT AT TABLES WITH DEVILS FROM HELLS ALUMNI
N’ THEY SUGGESTIN SINS THAT I CAN’T EVEN CLASSIFY
DARK AND TWISTED
WHERE ONCE THESE THINGS GOT EVICTED
THEY NOW TAKE UP HOME AND RESIDE
MY SPINE FEELS THE PAIN OF A BACKSLIDE
PIERCED, STRIPPED, AND PISSED
AS PRIDE LEAVES MY 3rd EYE BLIND
POWER IS PERFECTED IN WEAKNESS (1st Cor. 15:43)
SO I ASK GOD TO HELP ME SEE THESE SPIRITS OF SICKNESS
-dirt
great stuff bro. I've had these phone/chat convos myself.