Comments on: Does Your Spouse Know Who You Think Is Hot? http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/ Carlos Whittaker's Weblog Fri, 10 Feb 2012 08:05:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: pmelt http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-267686 pmelt Tue, 12 May 2009 15:57:08 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-267686 My beautiful wife and I have no problem mentioning off hand if we think someone else is good-looking. She knows that I think Carrie Underwood loves me. And for some strange reason she just laughs at me... My beautiful wife and I have no problem mentioning off hand if we think someone else is good-looking. She knows that I think Carrie Underwood loves me.

And for some strange reason she just laughs at me…

]]> By: annie http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-267263 annie Fri, 08 May 2009 02:08:21 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-267263 My man and I are not uncomfortable letting each other know if someone else is hot. It's something we can tease each other about. Even with real life people. Because we know that we both honor our marriage, it isn't a threat at all. I can see both sides, but we're with you and H on this one! My man and I are not uncomfortable letting each other know if someone else is hot. It's something we can tease each other about. Even with real life people. Because we know that we both honor our marriage, it isn't a threat at all.

I can see both sides, but we're with you and H on this one!

]]> By: brennan Loveless http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-267093 brennan Loveless Wed, 06 May 2009 15:32:50 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-267093 yea, you would. yea, you would.

]]> By: David Patrick http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-266902 David Patrick Tue, 05 May 2009 01:31:43 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-266902 Yeah me and my wife can talk about "heart skippers" as you call them. But more and more lately she's increasingly the hottest woman I know. :-) Cool blog by the way! -David <a href="http://www.happilymarriedafter.wordpress.com" target="_blank">www.happilymarriedafter.wordpress.com</a> <a href="http://www.davidisms.wordpress.com" target="_blank">www.davidisms.wordpress.com</a> Yeah me and my wife can talk about "heart skippers" as you call them. But more and more lately she's increasingly the hottest woman I know. :-)

Cool blog by the way!

-David
http://www.happilymarriedafter.wordpress.com
http://www.davidisms.wordpress.com

]]> By: kristicw http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-266897 kristicw Mon, 04 May 2009 21:07:55 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-266897 We do share openly about our attraction to other people. We joke around about it ("Get your eyes back on the road, buddy!") - and have serious conversations about it ("I have lunch scheduled alone with my co-worker tomorrow. I want you to know that I am in no way attracted to her. But I also want you to know for accountability."). If I know who he is attracted to and what his temptations are, we can talk about it openly and shine light into potentially dark places. This is especially true is one of us is traveling or otherwise away from the other. "Any hot girls staying at your hotel?" "Well, there's this one brunette, but she's too short for my taste." Once he knows that I know about that brunette, he will steer way clear of her. And it goes the other way as well. If he knows the guys that I think are emotionally or physically attractive, I am less likely to allow myself to engage in any inappropriate way with that person - either in real life or in fantasy. We do share openly about our attraction to other people. We joke around about it ("Get your eyes back on the road, buddy!") – and have serious conversations about it ("I have lunch scheduled alone with my co-worker tomorrow. I want you to know that I am in no way attracted to her. But I also want you to know for accountability.").

If I know who he is attracted to and what his temptations are, we can talk about it openly and shine light into potentially dark places. This is especially true is one of us is traveling or otherwise away from the other. "Any hot girls staying at your hotel?" "Well, there's this one brunette, but she's too short for my taste." Once he knows that I know about that brunette, he will steer way clear of her. And it goes the other way as well. If he knows the guys that I think are emotionally or physically attractive, I am less likely to allow myself to engage in any inappropriate way with that person – either in real life or in fantasy.

]]> By: Christa http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-266880 Christa Mon, 04 May 2009 15:50:09 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-266880 I don't really know if Jesus found women attractive or not while He was on earth. I DO know He is God's son and He lived a sinless life, BUT he lived 33 years as a human and there is nothing wrong if he did think that a time or two. Although, I am guessing that they probably didn't use the word "hot" back then. Also, take 12 men or even women for that matter, Christian or not, and I bet a million dollars if they spend as much time together as the disciples did, someone will bring up the opposite sex at one point or another! Nothing wrong with that either! I don't really know if Jesus found women attractive or not while He was on earth. I DO know He is God's son and He lived a sinless life, BUT he lived 33 years as a human and there is nothing wrong if he did think that a time or two. Although, I am guessing that they probably didn't use the word "hot" back then. Also, take 12 men or even women for that matter, Christian or not, and I bet a million dollars if they spend as much time together as the disciples did, someone will bring up the opposite sex at one point or another! Nothing wrong with that either!

]]> By: Miss_Wright http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-266833 Miss_Wright Sun, 03 May 2009 21:03:12 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-266833 disclaimer: I am a single young woman in the church and have no marital experience. Nonetheless... - I think the words "hot" and "smokin'" carry a lot of baggage and are almost immediately associated with sexual meaning. In this case, I believe that the Bible is clear on the issue. - I believe that appreciating God's creation (even humans) is a form of worship, but only when the Creator is worshipped, not the creation. - The motives of the heart matter the most to God. This is where you define sin issues. Talking about someone else's "hot" factor in sheer appreciation for beauty probably isn't a sin issue. However, referencing what you like to see for the sake of your own pleasure probably has more selfish desires/motives than anything else. That is sin. It's probably different for each person in each circumstance. disclaimer: I am a single young woman in the church and have no marital experience. Nonetheless…
- I think the words "hot" and "smokin'" carry a lot of baggage and are almost immediately associated with sexual meaning. In this case, I believe that the Bible is clear on the issue.
- I believe that appreciating God's creation (even humans) is a form of worship, but only when the Creator is worshipped, not the creation.
- The motives of the heart matter the most to God. This is where you define sin issues. Talking about someone else's "hot" factor in sheer appreciation for beauty probably isn't a sin issue. However, referencing what you like to see for the sake of your own pleasure probably has more selfish desires/motives than anything else. That is sin.
It's probably different for each person in each circumstance.

]]> By: Kat http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-266802 Kat Sun, 03 May 2009 02:59:49 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-266802 Thanks Jaime. He is pretty awesome. I pray you'll be an incredible husband too. Sounds like you already are! Thanks Jaime. He is pretty awesome. I pray you'll be an incredible husband too. Sounds like you already are!

]]> By: T.Ro. http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-266780 T.Ro. Sat, 02 May 2009 21:16:03 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-266780 Think it depends on the relationship. And how the conversation is handled. I want my husband to know that there is absolutely no one else I with whom I would rather be. So, I guess I don't see how the conversation is beneficial to the marriage. Think it depends on the relationship. And how the conversation is handled. I want my husband to know that there is absolutely no one else I with whom I would rather be. So, I guess I don't see how the conversation is beneficial to the marriage.

]]> By: Jaime Early http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/2009/04/does-your-wife-know-who-you-think-is-hot/#comment-266772 Jaime Early Sat, 02 May 2009 18:52:49 +0000 http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com/?p=7415#comment-266772 WOW, that is awesome. Sounds like your husband is awesome. I pray that I could be that good to my wife. WOW, that is awesome. Sounds like your husband is awesome. I pray that I could be that good to my wife.

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