This military mom says decide that you will be fine. Decide that you are a strong capable father. I’m sure you know from other areas of life that attitude is everything… same is true for single parenting. The kids will follow your lead. And… good luck!
i’m not a mom but whenever i babysit i constantly sing. i sing instructions “let’s sit at the table and eat dinner” or “let’s brush our teeth”. it’s really difficult (though not impossible) to yell while singing.
I wish I could say that I have perfected mommyhood… NO ONE has! There’s really only one thing I can tell you from my experience… just make sure you know where ALL of the kids are at ALL times! I make sure my older one NEVER lets me forget the younger one!! I just sat her down one day and made sure she knew she always had to ask Mommy where the younger one was if I didn’t have her. ;o) As long as they’re in your sights you can’t mess up too bad! Haha!
Pray a lot. Be flexible. Take pictures. You may not be able to laugh at it at the moment, but whatever it is…dude, it’s hilarious later. I have an on-going journal of my son’s discoveries. 1) epinephrine pen — self inflicted — to the butt; 2) red acrylic paint all over the kitchen table; 3) lost at the park for 15 minutes — hid under the bridge…called 911; 4) dropped the six-week-old kitten downstairs; 5) smeared poop all over the carpet, 6) tried to cut his……off. I won’t tell you. Don’t ask; 6-100) and the list keeps going. All of it makes you a better person: humble, understanding, patient, kind, you name it.
I’ll pray for you, bro. This job ain’t easy. But, the LORD who calls you to it will get you through it.
Will leaves me all the time for church stuff and singing. I do all the mommy/wife stuff from a wheelchair so if I can do it, you definitely can I believe in you!!
The #1 tip I can give you is – be in a constant mode of prayer. Seriously, it keeps me from purposely rolling over my little ones toes all the time! HA!
Really practical advise that I don’t follow myself-have everything ready for the morning before you go to bed. All the school bags packed, clothes picked out, cereal and bowls setout for breakfast.
Good luck!
Find the flow of your kids. They all have a rhythm to what they do. Sometimes they need to be crawling all over you and in the next 5 minutes, they’ll completely forget you’re in the room. Once you can find the flow of your kids, you’ll be able to figure out when you can sneak away for half an hour to the next room to get some work done.
(Which is how I’m here now. Both boys have little leap pads – just like Losiah’s – and we just started Finding Nemo. So, I’ve got a solid 20 minutes before someone will come looking for me.)
I second the previous poster who said, get everything done the night before. I know it sucks – I’m always wiped out by bed time, but really, it will save your morning getting ready for school.
(One last over-achiever thought…I’m guessing Heather left you piles of clean laundry. B/c she is that good. If she hasn’t done it already, get clothes for each child picked out for every day you have left. Then keep each day’s clothing somewhere easy to grab when you need it in the morning.)
Post everything crazy that happens and I’m sure you’ll get lots of sympathy and stories to make you feel better. Praying for you!
I feel so special that you asked for advice. No one ever asks the moms for advice. Thx.
As a military wife, living everywhere, even overseas, it makes me giggle a little bit when I hear a dad in your situation. First, ITA with Tracey. Man up. You can go this for 4 nights. Pick a couple of special outings. My kids go to bed at 8 regardless of it Daddy’s home or not. I need the couple of hours of peace to clean up and then relax. Plus, a schedule seems to make them sleep well at night although this theory doesn’t always hold water. Have pizza, eat cereal and walk to the park. It doesn’t hurt to chant Phillipians 4:13 either.
Containment is the key. My hubby does car rides with an occassional drive through for McD french fries. Movie nights with lots of snuggling works, too. Good luck! We will be praying for you!
OK, here are my go-to things that always entertain:
Bath time. It never hurts to have 4 baths a day. Buy some bath crayons or something you don’t usually let them play with. It could be a full hour’s worth of entertainment.
Go outside. Just running around is good. Or go do a leaf or rock collection.
Let them play with big bowls and spoons in the sink with water. They can pretend (or actually) wash dishes. If you’re feeling really brave, let them play with flour too.
Pull out tupperware. Let them do whatever they want with it.
Make a tent out of a sheet and chairs.
And lastly, go to chick-fil-a, let them play on the playground and get yourself a milkshake
Oh and I agree with a previous poster, do EVERYTHING you can the night before so you don’t have to think too hard in the morning.
When my boys were young I had them for week a couple of times by myself..I had a lot of fun and they did too,, but we were all glad when the MOM came back from her trip..its all having a good attitude about it..
nooo…. your not being a bit overdramatic… Okay… videos are your friend. No toys that have liquid or painting or gluing parts… (no crafts!!!)… take them out to the park and wear them out as much as possible. Stick with the routine otherwise and don’t change Heather’s rules or ways of doing things… otherwise they will try to change everything else (pushing boundaries) the entire time she is gone… Your gonna have to play bad cop… sorry dad. LOL.
This reminds me of Vin Diesel in the movie Pacifier, not the role you normally play, but in the end you come up strong and make it through with the kids. And you kind of look like him, a little I guess.
Good luck with all of that. Will send help if we don’t hear from you in a couple of days.
Oh my sweet mercy, I am giggling so much right now. Didn’t you watch what I did when you stayed with us? Oh right, you were OUT DOING YOUR JOB.
A few things:
1. McDonald’s Happy Meals – Get them one every day and allow them to play at the play place. But take socks or you’ll have to buy them from McD’s because your kids have to wear socks in the play place. Or at least they should. Eww…
2. Play outside with them during the hours of 3:30-6:00 (or whenever you eat dinner). This period of time is called “Arsenic Hour” because you don’t know whether to give it to them or take it yourself. What?
3. Watch some HGTV (I recommend House Hunters) once they are in bed. You will be surprised at just how much you enjoy it. Few things thrill like floor plans. Not to mention Suzanne Whang’s dialogue. She’s good.
my son is 1/2 korean, about the same age, we live close, call my wife and set it up. they’d love each other. some rest/computer/blog/songwriting time for dad while they go nuts on the playground!
brother: i’m a dad of little boys too and I sure can relate to your situation! I agree with the “flow” comment above – use the time when they’re sleeping to ‘gird your loins’ so to speak. get stuff ready, make a plan, etc. finally, know that you *can* do it and perhaps there will be some moments of unforgettable joy. hang in.
I am a stay at home mama whose husband frequently travels for week(s) at a time. I always jokingly ask when I get to leave our 3 wonderful kiddos with him and run off for a week!? Ha! My biggest piece of advice is to love the moments of kid/daddy time you get – take a special trip to McD’s for dinner or the park or even just something fun @ home then have YOU time once they are in bed… and my kids are always in bed just a few minutes early when my husband is away Also, one practical tip: clean as you go!! This is something that confounds my dear husband! No mess is too big if you take it as it comes!
I’ve been hanging out with a dear friend this week who is a professional mom/wife/home maker and I’m learning a lot while her husband is away. One big this is this: time warnings. “Two more minutes and then it’s nap time.” “One more song and then we have to clean up.” That way they’re prepared for the fun to end and less upset. You got this.
carlos, kids’ section of the library is always good. do you have those jumping places out there? like $5 for all day energy release? um…..park & fly a kite or have a bubble blowing contest. kids like to blow big bubbles & compete to do so! i know i’m late…maybe some ideas for tomorrow after church. hugs
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This military mom says decide that you will be fine. Decide that you are a strong capable father. I’m sure you know from other areas of life that attitude is everything… same is true for single parenting. The kids will follow your lead. And… good luck!
i’m not a mom but whenever i babysit i constantly sing. i sing instructions “let’s sit at the table and eat dinner” or “let’s brush our teeth”. it’s really difficult (though not impossible) to yell while singing.
I wish I could say that I have perfected mommyhood… NO ONE has! There’s really only one thing I can tell you from my experience… just make sure you know where ALL of the kids are at ALL times! I make sure my older one NEVER lets me forget the younger one!! I just sat her down one day and made sure she knew she always had to ask Mommy where the younger one was if I didn’t have her. ;o) As long as they’re in your sights you can’t mess up too bad! Haha!
When did you become a Sith Lord?
Dude. You’re screwed. Have fun!
Pray a lot. Be flexible. Take pictures. You may not be able to laugh at it at the moment, but whatever it is…dude, it’s hilarious later. I have an on-going journal of my son’s discoveries. 1) epinephrine pen — self inflicted — to the butt; 2) red acrylic paint all over the kitchen table; 3) lost at the park for 15 minutes — hid under the bridge…called 911; 4) dropped the six-week-old kitten downstairs; 5) smeared poop all over the carpet, 6) tried to cut his……off. I won’t tell you. Don’t ask; 6-100) and the list keeps going. All of it makes you a better person: humble, understanding, patient, kind, you name it.
I’ll pray for you, bro. This job ain’t easy. But, the LORD who calls you to it will get you through it.
Leave a couple boxes of cereal out and lock yourself in a closet.
Will leaves me all the time for church stuff and singing. I do all the mommy/wife stuff from a wheelchair so if I can do it, you definitely can
I believe in you!!
The #1 tip I can give you is – be in a constant mode of prayer. Seriously, it keeps me from purposely rolling over my little ones toes all the time! HA!
Have fun!
Really practical advise that I don’t follow myself-have everything ready for the morning before you go to bed. All the school bags packed, clothes picked out, cereal and bowls setout for breakfast.
Good luck!
Just be like Bill Cosby in “Bill Cosby Himself” – “Dad is great! Gives us the chocolate cake!”
Find the flow of your kids. They all have a rhythm to what they do. Sometimes they need to be crawling all over you and in the next 5 minutes, they’ll completely forget you’re in the room. Once you can find the flow of your kids, you’ll be able to figure out when you can sneak away for half an hour to the next room to get some work done.
(Which is how I’m here now. Both boys have little leap pads – just like Losiah’s – and we just started Finding Nemo. So, I’ve got a solid 20 minutes before someone will come looking for me.)
I second the previous poster who said, get everything done the night before. I know it sucks – I’m always wiped out by bed time, but really, it will save your morning getting ready for school.
(One last over-achiever thought…I’m guessing Heather left you piles of clean laundry. B/c she is that good. If she hasn’t done it already, get clothes for each child picked out for every day you have left. Then keep each day’s clothing somewhere easy to grab when you need it in the morning.)
Post everything crazy that happens and I’m sure you’ll get lots of sympathy and stories to make you feel better. Praying for you!
I feel so special that you asked for advice. No one ever asks the moms for advice. Thx.
As a military wife, living everywhere, even overseas, it makes me giggle a little bit when I hear a dad in your situation. First, ITA with Tracey. Man up. You can go this for 4 nights. Pick a couple of special outings. My kids go to bed at 8 regardless of it Daddy’s home or not. I need the couple of hours of peace to clean up and then relax. Plus, a schedule seems to make them sleep well at night although this theory doesn’t always hold water. Have pizza, eat cereal and walk to the park. It doesn’t hurt to chant Phillipians 4:13 either.
Oh brother!
Love you
Containment is the key. My hubby does car rides with an occassional drive through for McD french fries. Movie nights with lots of snuggling works, too. Good luck! We will be praying for you!
OK, here are my go-to things that always entertain:
Bath time. It never hurts to have 4 baths a day. Buy some bath crayons or something you don’t usually let them play with. It could be a full hour’s worth of entertainment.
Go outside. Just running around is good. Or go do a leaf or rock collection.
Let them play with big bowls and spoons in the sink with water. They can pretend (or actually) wash dishes. If you’re feeling really brave, let them play with flour too.
Pull out tupperware. Let them do whatever they want with it.
Make a tent out of a sheet and chairs.
And lastly, go to chick-fil-a, let them play on the playground and get yourself a milkshake
Oh and I agree with a previous poster, do EVERYTHING you can the night before so you don’t have to think too hard in the morning.
Rent this movie:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0085970/
You’ll learn a lot.
When my boys were young I had them for week a couple of times by myself..I had a lot of fun and they did too,, but we were all glad when the MOM came back from her trip..its all having a good attitude about it..
and where oh where did your kids get the drama from? good grief, suck it up. you’ll be fine.
nooo…. your not being a bit overdramatic… Okay… videos are your friend. No toys that have liquid or painting or gluing parts… (no crafts!!!)… take them out to the park and wear them out as much as possible. Stick with the routine otherwise and don’t change Heather’s rules or ways of doing things… otherwise they will try to change everything else (pushing boundaries) the entire time she is gone… Your gonna have to play bad cop… sorry dad. LOL.
Hire yourself a “Grandma” for a few hours! Works great!
Jojo. Are you for hire?
I only have one kid so this may not help much, but get them to be creative. Have they make up songs, stories or skits and then record them.
INSIST on one hour of quiet time during the day. Just one hour. Set a timer. No ding = no noise.
ephedra and valium. for you, and for the kids respectively.
This reminds me of Vin Diesel in the movie Pacifier, not the role you normally play, but in the end you come up strong and make it through with the kids. And you kind of look like him, a little I guess.
Good luck with all of that. Will send help if we don’t hear from you in a couple of days.
Oh my sweet mercy, I am giggling so much right now. Didn’t you watch what I did when you stayed with us? Oh right, you were OUT DOING YOUR JOB.
A few things:
1. McDonald’s Happy Meals – Get them one every day and allow them to play at the play place. But take socks or you’ll have to buy them from McD’s because your kids have to wear socks in the play place. Or at least they should. Eww…
2. Play outside with them during the hours of 3:30-6:00 (or whenever you eat dinner). This period of time is called “Arsenic Hour” because you don’t know whether to give it to them or take it yourself. What?
3. Watch some HGTV (I recommend House Hunters) once they are in bed. You will be surprised at just how much you enjoy it. Few things thrill like floor plans. Not to mention Suzanne Whang’s dialogue. She’s good.
You’re welcome.
play dates.
my son is 1/2 korean, about the same age, we live close, call my wife and set it up. they’d love each other. some rest/computer/blog/songwriting time for dad while they go nuts on the playground!
Oh Wow!! Good luck man! I get a little fussy when my wife goes out for a day…let alone 4 nights!
brother: i’m a dad of little boys too and I sure can relate to your situation! I agree with the “flow” comment above – use the time when they’re sleeping to ‘gird your loins’ so to speak. get stuff ready, make a plan, etc. finally, know that you *can* do it and perhaps there will be some moments of unforgettable joy. hang in.
Remember to pick your battles, some are not worth fighting. Also remember that you are in charge not the kids or they will eat you alive! good luck.
My advice: stay on the same schedule as she would, keep them entertained and don’t go easy. (you give them an inch–they’ll take a mile.)
Totally digging the Requiem for a Dream in the background. It makes you being a daddy that much more intense!!
oh the drama. love it. just get outside…always makes for more fun.
Don’t let the kitchen get messy. If you can stay on top of the kitchen I promise you won’t go insane! LOL
HA! Make sure you take care of the me in mommy! Or would that be the de in daddy?
The dramatic music in the background cracks me up.
I am a stay at home mama whose husband frequently travels for week(s) at a time. I always jokingly ask when I get to leave our 3 wonderful kiddos with him and run off for a week!? Ha! My biggest piece of advice is to love the moments of kid/daddy time you get – take a special trip to McD’s for dinner or the park or even just something fun @ home then have YOU time once they are in bed… and my kids are always in bed just a few minutes early when my husband is away
Also, one practical tip: clean as you go!! This is something that confounds my dear husband! No mess is too big if you take it as it comes!
I’ve been hanging out with a dear friend this week who is a professional mom/wife/home maker and I’m learning a lot while her husband is away. One big this is this: time warnings. “Two more minutes and then it’s nap time.” “One more song and then we have to clean up.” That way they’re prepared for the fun to end and less upset.
You got this.
carlos, kids’ section of the library is always good. do you have those jumping places out there? like $5 for all day energy release? um…..park & fly a kite or have a bubble blowing contest. kids like to blow big bubbles & compete to do so! i know i’m late…maybe some ideas for tomorrow after church. hugs
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