Your Six Year Old Will Not Remember Your Problems…
My 6 year old looked at me in the eye today and asked me if I would go out on a date with her.
I told her yes.
In the back of my head all I knew is that I have a flight to catch and 55 phone calls to make.
2 hours later there are 55 people mad at me for not calling them back and I am late to my flight…
But she…
…is in love with me and they never will be.
When you work for yourself, are behind on the mortgage, have sickness in the family, have a client waiting for something, are a lonely stay at home mom, or any other “grown up” problems…
Remember…
Your six year old will not remember those problems, just that her dad said “I’m busy”.
Los
RAIN IT DOWN
OK OK OK dang LOS, I’ll take my daughter on a date…shut it. oh wait…maybe that’s the holy spirit talking…OK, I’m listening!
I’m shutting down the computer and heading home.
Do it.
Los,
As a dad of three girls (ages 6,8, and 9), I printed this post out and am keeping it in my office as a reminder. Hands down, in my opinion, your best written post, EVER! Thanks for your heart!
Thanks for reading man…
Good call dude. For sure. Good call.
The call has been made. yes. and to you as well. Did you get my VM?
sucker punch. thanks a lot.
For me too…
Awesome man! I remember what u said on la ink and am pumped to see you modeling that changed behavior for others to learn from. For me to learn from!
Ese…
Absolutely beautiful! and so right. Children want nothing but our time. What we do and how we interact with our children shape them for a life time. =)
yup.
Los,
Beautiful reminder..About lost it today when my daughter was flipping out because she wanted to wear her dress backwards. She is sick, so reallly whiny. Kinda like me right now. She asked later if I was mad at her. I told her no, I’m mad at myself and I love you. She hugged me. I have a lot to learn from her!
Thanks, bro!
We should all dress backwards every once in a while
I remind myself of this so many times. But there are still so many times I feel like my business is justified. Or will be quick.
Thank you for this necessary reminder!
It’s always ONE MORE EMAIL
And what does it all mean anyway, right? Nothing compared to that little angel
Thanks again for this.
Ouch!
That hit me where it hurts.
I agree w/ Ryan. Best post ever.
Thanks man. LETS HANG SOON
Los,
I don’t know you, and I haven’t really listened to your music… yet.
But, being a worship leader and an online marketer I RSS your blog.
Dude… You have it. You have the most important key to being a leader: priorities. I love how easily it was for you to put your daughter above some silly phone call.
Mad love man… keep up the good stuff.
~Sam
thanks man.
i just took my dog for a walk. she loves me.
Just talking with a friend about my lack of “quality” time with my girls. This hits home for me. I want my girls to remember “dates” with their mom, and not mom sleeping or working all the time. Thanks for this awesome post! Gonna make that date!
do it!!!
It’s not just when she’s 6. Yesterday, my dad took time out of his busy schedule to run an errand with me just because I was stressed and upset. It made my day. And I’m 24.
Now that is amazing
I am a daddy’s girl through and through and we are very close. Major part of that, is because of our dates growing up. Every month, since I could remember, me and dad would go to dinner and usually end up at some bookstore or the movie no one else wanted to see in the family. I will NEVER forget that. And even now, 22 and moved out, I still have daddy dates. They are worth it!
(oh, and my mom would go out with my brothers. that was a good idea too!)
Good to hear!
My “kids” are 31 and 27 and the best days i have is when I get to spend it with them doing whatever, and they enjoy it still!
I hope you don’t mind, I reposted this, gave you props for it too…thanks man!
As a single guy this is hard for me to understand. But as I read this I am reminded of all the times my dad went to my games and always took time for me.
Honestly, I can be that pushy guy that is looking for a response (and a phone call
but now I understand you have more important things to do. And for that I can never be frustrated or pushy.
Choose to Cheat
Ha. Soon my friend…soon.
All good
I understand
we can never have too many reminders of this … thanks for sharing your sweet girl, her determination and your love for her & devotion to family
man…..now THAT was a 2′x4′!!
Hope I did ok. my 20 year old son still likes to joke with and hug on me and my 18 year old daughter still hugs and lays with her head in my lap when we’re on the couch.
You rock!
Reminds me of all my dad did with me and for me, even though he ALWAYS fell asleep playing Barbie’s
Thanks God Bless
Thanks for the punch in the gut. I constantly need to remind myself of this.
Thank you for encouraging me with this
-A future father
Great words man – wish more parents (especially fathers would do the same). Simple things like that will go a long way toward keeping girls from trying to get affection and acceptance from stupid boys.
Thanks for reminding us of the importance of this – there’s not much worse than when I hear myself tell my son “Not right now” or “I will after I…” I usually do a pretty good job of giving him time even if it means putting something else off or being late, but “usually…pretty good” isn’t good enough.
You’re absolutely right! I remember all the special times my dad took me on dates. I only remember one instance of him saying he was too busy. He apologized and said he never wanted to say that ever again. Now that I’m a mother, I hope my daughter never feels that Mommy doesn’t have time for her.
It is very hard. But I really want to try to start having a day where I do something with one of my children once a month, just me and them, something they want to do. Also my husband can do this as well.
I agree that this is your best post yet. It reminded me of all the dates that I had with my dad. Movies, coffee, people watching while drinking coffee and laughing like crazy. I also saw that this is the reason why I never looked towards any other man for love other than the man I am married to now. My husband is my first and only boyfriend. And I think my dad played a good part in that.
This is certainly awesome. I’m 24 and texted my dad the other day, “we need a sushi date” Saturday came and a much needed date took place. It may not have happened when I was a kid, but it does.
How did you learn to be such a sensitive Dad. I don’t remember teaching you. Love you, Babe.
Ha. It’s in the blood mama
I can relate to your daughter’s desire to hang out with her Daddy (even though I’m 27!)— I love it when my parents make extra time for me even though I know how busy life can be! This post challenges me to decide to put THEM (and my sibs and my friends!) first sometimes. Even though I’m up to my neck in the thick of it! Thanks!
Thanks for the GREAT reminder!! I think for me I get so caught up with what HAS to get done that my children sometimes become second! Thanks!
As the mother of two wonderful women – I have to say I agree with the fact that children are more important than anything else we ever do and they remember.
I’m under no impression that you are a perfect dad but saying yes to your daughter was the perfect response in every way. May more dads realize that actions backing up the words are what make the words ‘I love you’ believable.
WOW amazing.. nothing like making their day.. Even as a mom those dates are important.. with both my boys and my girl…
thanks
Thanks for this Los. I had an extremely rough day where changes in what company I am working for will be happen this week. A nice reminder that my little boy makes everything all better
This week my 12-year-old daughter wrote Debbie and me an anniversary card. It said “Thanks for spending time with us even with all your church work.” She drew a clock with probably 20 tick marks for church, church, church, church, church, church, church, church etc etc … and only two or three tick marks for “us”. She meant it gratefully for the time I do have with them, but for me that clock was a disturbing picture. I have to do better.
wow
I was just talking with another mom friend about this the other day. Both of us have to work hard to keep our mouths shut when we’d love to unload on the kids “do you know what I have to go through everyday?!”. They don’t care. Nor should they. That’s our job. Good post. Very well said.
I’m reading Calvin Miller’s “Into the Depths of God” and I think this post of yours fits very well with the chapter I just read on eliminating the hustle and bustle of our lives.
I guess I’m supposed to get this message….thanks!
My dad’s excuse was ALWAYSs “tired and worked a long day”. Your right, you never forget that!
Good Job, Los! These are the moments and in a blink of an eye….well, I think you know the rest.
Love it!
Los,
Read a book a long time ago (8 yrs) called “What A Difference a Daddy makes” by Kevin Leman(sp)and it was all about the Daddy Daughter realtionship. And the #1 thing he said was to “date your daughter now because someone else will later”!! That floored me, so all that to say this to every dad of a little girl… DATE HER and show her how she is SUPPOSED to be treated!
Great job man!
Word!
You’re absolutely right! More likely than not we remember the.”I’m too tired,” and the “not now” comments. I remember the dad that wasn’t there. It still stings that I didn’t experience the closeness of a dad that cared enough to be there for his kids.
Keep up it up & keep telling the masses, as long as one gets the message, a seed is planted!
I’ll say it again you’re kiddos are lucky to have you!
Right on! I remember my daughter’s 12th birthday. I was steeped in my career. As I watched “my little girl” I realized that sooner than I wanted to accept it, she will be off to college. 2/3 of her life with me were gone. And I had blown those 12 years. I woke up and put my career below my family, and God has blessed that choice.
Just wanted to say thanks for showing how much you love your children.
I also wanted to share that my 8 year old son is a big fan. He listens to Rain Down and Jesus Saves over and over on his Ipod. I love having him sing your songs, hiding God’s truth in his heart. Thanks so much!
This post is awesome. I would like permission to reprint this on my site. I have four children and this post really took me aback. I’m not someone who ignores them or makes them second to other things yet it still meant a lot to me to read this. Our children grow up so fast so we need to cherish all the time we can spend with them. Please email me if it is okay to reprint your post.
Taking your daughter on a date teaches her wonderful things about the way she should be treated on a real date 10 years from now. It will really help her now what kind of man she should marry. What a wonderful gift to give her!
“Sure, let’s schedule it for tomorrow.”
Easy enough.
Hi Carlos, since chancing on your site on a random surf last week, I haven’t stopped returning. Love this post especially ‘cos it sums up everything that my dad is to me; we have a beautiful papa-daughter relationship, and to witness the same love in the lives of other people is just wonderful. It’s like a snippet of what it is to be loved by our Father God – how amazing!
We can REALLY learn selfishness from little kids. Forget that an adult juggles countless issues every day, the liitle kid just says I want it ALL & I want it NOW & somhow YOU end up feeling guilty. Well how about explaining to said little kids that the adult world is run on compromise, & that sometimes they’re not the most important thing in everyone’s world.
I came across your page whilst stumbling, have no idea who you are and have never heard your music (which I will remedy!). I have never commented anywhere before but just felt compelled to say WELL DONE YOU – I am a single transgendered parent with a sometimes very difficult pubescent 11 year old daughter, life is precious and love is fragile and I think we all need to reality check every once in a while, your post displayed a perspective which I think is becoming rarer and rarer in this dog eat dog world – you have very succinctly stated what is important and it warms my soul to read it – Thankyou
Very awesome words & a great reminder! Thanks for sharing. I’m glad I stumbled upon this post today.
Love that there are Dad’s that feel this way. I know that I am accussed of living my life for my children, but they are the ones that make my life worth living.
Los,
You have gut punched me with this post! So much so, I had to pass on the message with my own thoughts over on my own blog.
Dang, to borrow from our friend Isaiah, “I am undone!”
Thanks for keeping it real.
Beautiful, just love it
Great comments!
I love this. Short and to the point with SO much to say. I don’t know how often or how easy it is to say “later” to the kids (I have 3 of them – 13, 8 and 11 months), but it’s going to be a little bit harder now because of YOUR article. The power of word is amazing, thanks for sharing. I’m going to do something special with them today instead of what I was going to do!
THANK YOU!
Shutting the laptop and gonna crawl around on the floor with my little one.
I am a father of 3 kids 8,5,3. My 3 year old has spent probably 6 – 7 months of his life in hospitals to date. Talk about being behind the 8 ball with working full time being the primary provider and trying to emotionally explain why mom and dad don’t spend a lot of time with them. A date is awesome and will make all the difference to my 8 year old daughter who is mom when mom is not around. Even my 5 year old son need a “date” playing mini golf or just wrestling at home. The thing I always come back to is no one ever said on their death bed “I wish I could have just worked one more day……” That is why they call it work not fun.
Thank you so much for posting this… we all get caught up in the hum-drum of life… our children are our reminders that everything will be okay and that “i’m busy” is unacceptable.
This is beautiful! Thanks again!
Awesome! I’m going to get off of this machine right now.
Thanks, I needed that. I have MS and have been very behind lately. I have forgotten that the kids need Dad to give them time too.
I loved this post….it is so true and your daughter is a very lucky girl. I’ve linked this page to all my friends with kids.
Much love to you and yours.
Fabulous…. such an important thing I needed to be reminded of. thank you.
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